What happens when your relationship with your best friend turns into a confusing friends-with- benefits situation?
Now that we are in high school, many believe that a long-term relationship wouldn’t work out and could become just a waste of time. Others may just think a relationship would get in the way of having fun and meeting new people.
For some, including myself, it may take years to become great friends with a person of the opposite sex, and most of the time the friends depend on each other for relationship advice. Not only do they confide in each other with relationship problems, but one becomes the first person the other goes to in any situation.
Together, friends watch each others relationships go through the honeymoon stages and the troubling break-ups. After an unexpected break-up, our first instincts as a friend is to pick each other up again, reminding our friend that the end of the world is very far away.
It wasn’t until I encountered an emotional break-up that my best friend began to feel something for me. He began to express himself with more affection, and at the time he was helping me through my heart-healing process.
Our friendship stayed the same until an unexpected kiss completely changed things. Once a friendship barrier is ruined by a surprising first move, it becomes hard to talk about other relationships with the opposite sex, because the friends don’t want to hurt each other.
It is safe to say that we weren’t the only ones in this situation, and to prevent ruining our relationship, we made sure not to expect anything more from each other. In other situations the physical relationship takes over the friendship, and with no strings attached, it becomes easy for friends to rely on each other without the fighting or jealousy on the side.
Although everything seems to be working out for a while, one person always starts to realize the importance of an emotional relationship, and random hook-ups begin to take a turn for the worst. In my case, I was the one beginning to fall and I was beginning to truly believe Eminem was right when he wrote, “you want them when they don’t want you, soon as they do feelings change.”
Best friendships come to an end. We find replacements and move on. The reality is that sometimes taking a chance is the only way a person can truly see what could be beneficial in the long-run. At the same time, sometimes nothing is better than having a great friendship and not ruining it for one hot moment.
